The 12 Steps gave me something valuable in early sobriety — it gave me a place to start. But as I kept going, I realized I needed something different. Something more aligned with how I actually live and process. More intuitive. I craved something that felt less performative and more true to myself.

I didn’t want to just stay sober. I wanted to live in peace.

Full transparency: I was great at being an alcoholic. I tried to stop more times than I can count. I’d make progress, then slip. Try again. Wear the mask, stay the right things, maybe drop into a meeting or two…totally trapped in this vicious cycle. Until one night, sitting on a sidewalk, watching red and blue lights approach — my truck upside down behind me, a telephone pole split in half — something shifted and I was finally DONE. The craving was gone.

But that’s when the real work began.

Because alcohol wasn’t the core issue; it was the signal. And once it was gone, the rest came into focus.
The deeper pain I had been avoiding started to surface in new forms. Sex. Work. Fitness. Relationships. Chaos. Anything to stay distracted from the parts of me that were still asking to be seen.

Eventually, I hit a point where there was nowhere left to go but inward. And that’s when things started to change for real. Not because I found the perfect system or followed the rules, but because I started paying attention.

So who is my teacher now?

Life.
Not a method, not a dogma. Just life.
Some days, “life” looks like the breath, the pain, the synchronicities, and the silence. And then there are other days when “life” looks like paying toll bills (didn’t I just pay this?), managing the overwhelm of 100+ unread text messages and 20 missed calls, trying to be patient in fatherhood to avoid punching a hole in the wall, and resisting the urge to impulsively rage quit your job with zero back-up plan.

All that to say, when you really pay attention, life is always speaking. Once I learned to listen and speak the language it was using, everything began to shift.

The Old Davis: full-blown alcoholic, addicted to anything that would make him feel numb, didn’t think much about spirituality, inflamed AF, failed two years’ worth of college courses, aimless, people pleaser, arrested 3x, relationship dysfunction, most decisions guided by shame…BUT this guy always had a heart of gold. He just didn’t know how to center himself in self-love.

The Ever-Changing Davis: clarity on purpose, driven to provide value and be of service, sober, student of spirit, connected to cosmos, accepting of and willing to sit with shadow, curious, pursuing genuine connection, incredibly imperfect, and embracing it. The more he learns, the less he knows.

Sure, he is shredded…but most importantly, he still has a heart of gold. He often returns to a place of love for himself and others, which just happens to be reflected in physicality.

Why work with me?

I’m not here to fix you because you’re not broken. I’m here to walk beside you while you get back in touch with what’s already within you.

Think about all the moments that led you to this very moment, as you read this.
Yes, THIS, right now.
It’s not random. You’re here for a reason.

Perhaps I’m simply here to remind you of one thing:

Your core issues have never been about what’s outside of yourself.